Raw LLM Responses

⁠@moonlitxangel5771my second comment said I wasn’t generalizing. This is definitely me just focusing on this situation. It’s a case by case thing and This topic specifically isn’t just a little mistake. It’s a crime btw. Paying for that content and it being a personal friend is not a small oops. I keep DARVO in mind when things like this happen. I totally back what you are saying if it was a faux pas or genuine mistake that wouldn’t land you in jail. Maybe hurting feelings or having an immature belief. People grow and if they said or did something immature as, let’s say, a kid or teen then yeah…it’s absolutely too severe to make them a sum of their mistakes. And also hypocritical because we all mess up. Just most of us don’t have tangible proof of it. (I said this in my og comment btw. That we shouldn’t do that…so?) I’m SPECIFICALLY talking about his victims. Most victims will agree they won’t roll the red carpet out of someone that hurt them changed. They can commend it, maybe be glad he’s doing good instead of harm but they shouldn’t be forced to acknowledge him or let him back in their lives.. Sure I used hyperbolic language, but that’s not a crazy thing to say. A victim’s right to distrust, avoid, or critique a perpetrator has no bearing on whether the perpetrator improves. I’m not going to be used as a launch pad for bad faith take downs. If you want to misunderstand me then I won’t fight you on it. You’re entitled to your thoughts. I took care to not use generalizing language and I’ve been in enough group therapy to learn acceptance and moving on is a valid way of going about trauma. Forgiveness isn’t always necessary. You have valid grievances, just take care not to project onto the wrong people about it. That’s harmful. I don’t think you intend it, but some points you make are allowing for emotional blackmail. This is a sensitive accountability discourse. the gap between theoretical forgiveness and lived consequences. your outrage reflects a common (but flawed) conflation: "acknowledging change" ≠ "absolving harm", and victims’ boundaries aren’t what inhibit growth. You made a strawman that I’m apparently arguing for permanent punishment, but I’m actually describing natural consequence. I said—Victims don’t owe reconciliation. You heard—No one should ever recover from mistakes. This was long so I apologize, but I have been betrayed in a similar way from a predator in my life so I do have personal feelings invested in situations similar to mine like this. Therapists have lended me these points to heal so I guess they’re toxic now. Trust is earned, not owed. If he personally tries to do right in his friendships off camera then he could regain trust. I’m just saying throwing money at it or talking to a Parasocial audience isn’t earning back trust. The cycle of abuse depends on people forgiving and forgetting. Being gaslit. So yes, these things are messy, if you commit a sex crime people are going to question your actions. If you genuinely want to do better great. There’s no one stopping you, a victims validation that you’re a better person now shouldn’t be the motivation to be better. Do it for you and respect boundaries. consequences are just a reality. It’s a part of your story as a human now. If it was a little mistake no one should bring it up. But if you’re saving deepfakes of your friends or caused someone extreme emotional distress? It can’t be disappeared easily. You Still can be good and learn from it, but damage is done to the victim.